Dating advice to meet someone new

Is it fair to say that some people just have more luck when it comes to meeting new people. Or do they? For those singles who have been on the dating scene for a while or for those who have only just thought about re-entering the dating scene its important to remember what our goals are. What do we hope to achieve out of dating? Ultimately we are all looking for a relationship that brings us fulfilment. In order to find the kind of happiness a loving relationship can bring we need to understand some simple yet important rules of dating.

Dating Advice to Meet Someone New

Is it fair to say that some people just have more luck when it comes to meeting new people. Or do they? For those singles who have been on the dating scene for a while or for those who have only just thought about re-entering the dating scene its important to remember what our goals are. What do we hope to achieve out of dating? Ultimately we are all looking for a relationship that brings us fulfilment. In order to find the kind of happiness a loving relationship can bring we need to understand some simple yet important rules of dating.

Dating rule 1

Feel good about yourself
If you want to attract a single woman or a single man you need to feel good about yourself. When we look good we feel good and we feel more confident. Self image is so important; feeling down about the way you look will only make you less approachable. Treat yourself to a mini make over. Have your hair done, buy a new outfit, start exercising what ever it take to bring back some self confidence just do it.

Dating rule 2

Severe emotional ties with your ex where possible.
Hanging on to the past will not help attract someone new into our lives. If it’s over it’s over and a very important part of the dating process is letting go. Like all habits it is a tough one to break and ultimately prevents us moving on. Of course it is sometimes not possible to completely break ties especially when children or business connections are involved but where possible find a way to accept the break up without letting the past be a reason not to move forward. Deal with the emotional baggage and find a way to remove your ex interfering with your personal life.

Dating Rule 3

Understand your relationship expectations.
Are they realistic? We all have an idea about the type of person we want to be with. If you have been single and in the dating game for a while it’s probably time to re asses your expectations. If you’re the type of single woman to judge guy within seconds of meeting him or run through the checklist in your mind looking for perfection before you even accept a date its time to relax and reconsider your goals. It is important for dating success to let go of preconceived ideas about who we think the perfect single guy is or who we think the perfect single woman is and its time to start giving people a go. I’m not suggesting we have no expectations just be open to the possibility that love doesn’t always come packaged as we would like but love is still love and when you are lucky enough to find it all the ticks in the boxes won’t make a bit of difference.

Dating rule 4

Stop negative dating thoughts
“Single guys are only after one thing”. “I’ll never meet anyone.” “ I’m not looking for anyone anymore I’m just going to let them find me.” “”There are no eligible men in my age group.” “If you’re not married by the time your 35 there must be something wrong with you.”
Honestly I could go on with all the negative comments singles make about dating but really there just excuses. Dating should be a positive experience; it’s about numbers and about meeting as many interesting and eligible single as possible. If you’re going to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right you have to be prepared to follow dating rule 4, stay positive, have fun and stop focusing on the negatives.

Dating rule 5

Don’t be afraid
There are only two things that drive us and that are fear and love. So for singles that are not in committed, loving relationships its fear that often prevents them from finding love. Fear that we might have our hearts broken, fear that we might not actually find the one and spend our lives single. Fear that we are not good enough or that the one we love won’t love us back. Rejection, anxiety and apprehension about dating is normal and unless you eliminate negative thoughts from your subconscious you will prevent yourself finding someone special. Following all the rules of dating in the world won’t work if you can’t let go of your fear.

Dating rule 6

Accept all dates and be open to second dates
When someone asks you out on a date say yes. If an opportunity to have a date presents it’s self in the way of a blind date say yes. Don’t try to analysis the date before its even happened. Some people would place this rule of dating the most important one to follow, after all its all about opportunities. What’s the worst that could happen? You spend an hour over coffee and find they are not right for you but with each date whether it’s successful or not you are one step closer to meeting someone that is right for you. Saying yes to a first date will ultimately be the only thing that will lead you to a second date and a third and so on.

Don’t be too quick to judge the date. Feeling attracted to someone is important and often attraction grows when we least expect it. If you had a date and felt no attraction but you chatted easily had things in common and genuinely liked each other then it is worth a second chance if you’re asked. Accepting a second date is just as important as accepting the first. It’s not a marriage proposal nor is it leading someone on but it is a good idea to make sure there is nothing there rather than miss a golden opportunity.

Dating rule 7

Learn how to attract
The law of attraction is often a simple gesture and the ability to flirt will make your encounters far more successful. Smiling and being friendly to everyone you meet is a great start. Good body language and positive energy will naturally attract people to you. Dating rule or not living your life without a bit of flirting would be pretty boring. Practise giving compliments and it will be easier to receive them. Smile even when you’re talking on the phone especially if someone else has arranged the date. Look your date in the eyes and focus your attention on them.
People will notice you and the opposite sex will be more attracted to you with a little flirting.