The Phone Arrangement

The Do’s

DO call the lady within 3 days of receiving her phone number at the requested times.

Why: It shows you are reliable and respectful of arrangements and her time as well as instructions.

If you miss someone’s phone call always DO call him or her back.

Why: It is often very hard to make the first call and it could put someone off by having to call 2 or 3 times to make the first date. Men will often not call back if they have left a message and then don’t hear from you. He will assume he’ll always have to do the hard work and chasing and this sends out the wrong signal. You are both equals and both responsible for making arrangements.

DO always have 2 or more suggestions of meeting places.

Why: It shows the lady you are capable of making decisions and care enough to have thought about it.

DO be flexible with meeting days, times & places. Work together to find a time that suits you both.

Why: It is unrealistic to assume that you will both have the same day and time free to meet. Be willing to compromise. It shows you are mature enough to respect daily commitments of each individual. Let’s face it - everyone’s daily commitments vary and we must not be too quick to assume people’s availability.

DO try to meet each other within 1 week of speaking.

Why: Delaying the first date can send the wrong message, like meeting someone is not that important to you. If you can’t find ½ hour for a coffee within a week what chance does the next date or date after that have? Should you both like each other, you could come across like you are playing games and that this is just not that important to you.

Also whilst someone is waiting to meet you they are often not available to meet someone else and can feel their time has been wasted and opportunities for other dates missed.

The Don’t's

DON’T ask too many questions on the phone. The phone call should not be longer than 10minutes. It is simply a way to set up the first date.

Why: By asking all the basic questions on the phone you run the risk of someone pre-judging you before the meeting. It is easy to misunderstand a person’s answer when they are a total stranger and if you don’t like their tone of voice or answers you may be inclined not to meet. This is not only a waste of an introduction, it is also a great injustice as he or she could have been just right for you. And finally, if you talk for too long on the phone you often run the risk of having nothing to talk about on the first date.

DON’T be vague and disinterested when making the arrangement.

Why: It sets the tone for the date to be negative.DON’T arrange to do dinner on the first date.Why: It’s too long. If you don’t like each other it can be a potentially uncomfortable situation.

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