First date conversation starters and questions to ask

The first date should be fun and interesting and not too personal. Find out how many things you have in common even if the date is not someone you would consider for a relationship the first date can still be a huge success and leave you feeling good.

Music

Few people on earth don’t have some appreciation of music. Does your date like any of the same type of music as you, what was their first favourite song as a child? You might be surprised. Ask them how big their CD collection is, did they ever have a record? if they have an iPod. Ask what they blast in the car or do they listen to talk back when in the car. There is no right or wrong answers and even if you don’t share any of the same musical tastes, this is a great conversation waiting to be had.

Family

Where does your family live? Where did you grow up? Do you have brothers or sisters? Did you have a favourite aunt or uncle? Were there any rivalries? It’s always interesting hearing about other people’s families it can lead to valuable insights.

A current event

Keeping up with the local and national news will give you something to talk about on a first date. It’s always interesting to hear how other people interpret the same news and how their views differ from our own as well as how it affects them emotionally. Tread carefully though and try to avoid highly controversial issues and if the conversation looks like becoming heated know when to bail and change the subject.

What sports do you play or like?

How long have you played for? What were your favourite sports at school? Did you ever win any trophy’s? If you could be good at any sport what would it be?

Pets

You can’t go wrong with talking about someone’s beloved pet. If they don't have one, ask why maybe they are allergic which could be good to know especially if you have pets. Ask about their childhood pet or their fondest memory with an animal. What is their favourite animal?

Reading

Almost everyone reads something. Does your date like to read the books or the newspaper or magazines? What is the best book they ever read? Which book would they recommend to someone? Talking about books you have read is a great first date conversation topic. Even if you haven’t read the same books, you can take turns giving your opinions on some of the books you have read. The more things you talk about the likeier you are to find things in common.

Favourite Pastimes

This will tell you a great deal about your date. Are they a diehard football fan? Do they spend all their free time at the pub or the gym? Do they obsess over a TV series? Do they like to spend time with others or spend time alone? Do they like the great outdoors or prefer the opera and the arts? Do they like to travel? The list could go on forever, but you get the idea.

Politics

Depending on the current political issues some people think this is a bad topic for first date conversation because things can sometimes get very heated. Not necessarily true. In this day and age, everyone knows something about politics, even if only what was on the news today. If you’re on a date with a hardcore politico who gets red-faced when talking about the latest political party, I’d want to know about it upfront. It’s a brilliant way to see how well he/she has the ability to control themselves and whether they value others opinions. It’s is also good to know what strikes a cord of passion in a date and whatever it is better to have a passion for something than to live without one.

Famous people

What famous person would you most like to meet and why? This is just a nice light hearted topic for fun. If all else fails most people will feel comfortable answering this question knowing that it’s unlikely that their being judged and expected to give the answer the other person wants to hear.

Food

Well everybody eats and most people appreciate good food. What is their favourite food? Do they have any allergies? Do they cook? Do they have a favourite restaurant? What food cant they stand? The list of questions could go on and on but one thing is for sure this is a good safe subject and a great way to learn about the other person’s habits. Do they eat healthy? Are they a vegetarian? Did you find another thing you had in common? Hardly a relationship breaker if you didn’t but still cements a common ground.

Just remember whatever you talk about to keep it friendly and don’t judge the other person for being an individual!