5 turn offs for women

There’s plenty of obvious female turn offs, bad dress sense, still living with your mum at 45,  poor hygiene, bad teeth, lack of respect for others, constantly readjusting the manhood! And the list goes on.

But there are turn offs that are not so obvious, the ones women never stop to tell you because they don’t want to hurt your feelings or don’t want to spend time with you enough to want to tell you..

We all have annoying habits but we also do things that we are unaware of. Its little turn offs that show her you don’t have the strength of character and qualities the she desires by basic instinct. 

Some of the most common feedback about these turn offs are

1.) Not having confidence. Women are attracted to men who have confidence. You don’t have to be good looking to attract a woman; we have all seen gorgeous women with men less better looking. I know we all assume; he must be rich if he can get a women like that because the cliché is; that you can get any woman if you happen to be rich. What most guys fail to understand is that most rich men possess strength of character and a confidence that women are naturally drawn to.

Acting confident and self assured is one of the most desirable qualities for a woman.  Women associate male confidence with strength. They are naturally good at sensing this and can spot this quality in a crowded room or from a long distance.

A  confident man is able to make suggestions without being dominant, be interested in what others have to say, contribute to conversations without being arrogant, be able to laugh at himself and situations, possess good body language. He doesn’t show off or put others down and he modest without the need to big note himself or his achievements. He demonstrates it in more subtle and unassuming ways. He can handle himself in any social situation and has a knack for making others feel comfortable.

2.) Lack of leadership. Most women want you to make the first move. That includes you asking them out, making suggestions of where to go, initiating the second date, first kiss and letting them know you are interested.

It means doing all of the things that men are expected to do first. Unfortunately there is always the risk of rejection so men often fail to take the lead which boils back to the issue of confidence. The better you learn to handle yourself the better you will handle the ability to take the lead without fear of rejection. Most women are prepared to go out on a second date and will take the time to get to know a man who has the confidence to ask, even if it wasn’t love at first sight.

3.) Lying and being aloof. Being secretive and dishonest to try and attract a woman will have nothing but the opposite effect. Whilst you may think by treating them mean is keeping them keen lying is nothing short of deception.

Nobody likes to be deceived. Lies are easily found out it doesn’t take long before lies catch up with you. Being open and honest will always win more respect with women than telling them what you think they want to hear. Lying is just another way for a man to get the upper hand but it is a short lived position. 

4) Being needy and insecure. Most women don’t need a man to take care of them and while women are natural caregivers by nature she doesn’t want to have to provide endless emotional support. Being needy and always seeking approval are real turn offs for women. As is jealousy and aggression which are also parts of being insecure. Women will take care of the family and the ones she loves but in return she needs to feel she has someone she can lean on and depend upon..

5) Taking yourself and life too seriously. Life is full of hard decisions which need serious actions but when it comes to relationships the ability to laugh and have a positive attitude goes a long way. Expecting yourself and others to be perfect is a full time job, lighten up and don’t be afraid to admit your faults. Having a laugh at yourself doesn’t mean you have to be a comedian but men who can make women laugh posses a very powerful tool.